How To Change Your Life

Most of us live our lives being externally-directed instead of internally-connected; in other words, too many of us are watching and chasing the “Joneses,” when we really should be pulling down our “mental shades” and minding our own business.  If we are going to experience happier, more productive lives, it would be to our advantage to work on removing the “emotional cobwebs” of our past by confronting our insecurities, thus, building and polishing our self-esteem – the floor and foundation of our very own mental dwellings.  Besides, a little bit of housekeeping never hurt anyone.

So the important question to ask is:  “How Can I Change – or Improve – My Life?”

Well, let’s first consider a few things  . . .

Understand that your conscious mind, able to operate with the exactness of a computer keyboard, can be used to reprogram your unconscious mind (CPU: Central Processing Unit), which will automatically reproduce (print, in terms of your behavior, exactly what went in).  Unfortunately, for most of us, this happens to be very negative; thus, Garbage In, Garbage out (GIGO).

What exactly would you like to dispose of at this time???

Always question your beliefs; be open to change; listen without defending, speak without offending – and improve the quality of your life, as well as the content of your character.

When it comes to how you live your life, ask yourself what type of person you are – one of those people who does nothing (the lazy); the type of person who does a little (maintains a job, is a decent parent); or are you one of the few people who dares to do great things?

Philosophy:  All life is in the head.  In English: But if your “head” is a mess, then your life is probably a mess, too.

We’ll prepare for weeks for a big night out or sit and watch TV all night, but so few of us will bother to spend, say, $7 on a self-help book and schedule 20 minutes to read it each day.  It seems like the Pleasure Principle is working overtime in far too many lives.

There’s something wrong with this picture . . . ?

Change is gradual in its process, but instant in its results!

So, how can you change your life?  The following pointers will give you a foundation on which to build your continuing Life Change Program:

Write down what your purpose in life is and review it periodically. Your purpose should ask the following questions:  Who Am I (and not just your name, or just the fact that you like long walks in the park)?  Why Am I Here, on Earth?   I believe that our Higher Power put everyone here for a reason, and this reason always includes our using our talents to help others.

Develop a “Goal Plan” with deadlines/dates. Doing this will help you decide what it is that you want from life and provide you with ongoing direction.

Write a description of the type of person your want to be. And what your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, family, career, financial, and recreational goals are.  Also, write down why you want what you want?  What your biggest obstacles are?  And how you can overcome them?

Change the picture you have of yourself (your identity) by using creative visualization to help you reprogram your mind. Willpower is only temporary, so let your subconscious mind (dictates your behavior) help you change naturally by closing your eyes and visualizing the new Super You, starring in your own soon-to-be-released true story blockbuster.

Talk positively to yourself (positive affirmations) everyday. Counteract every negative thought or word with a positive response or affirmation, in the present tense, said with Emotion.  For example:  “I am happily improving my relationships with others by listening more and speaking less.”

Read, read, read positive material everyday . . . and when you’re done, read some more (books, magazines, etc.). If your day is full, then read in the morning or at bedtime or on the subway or bus. You eat everyday to stay alive, so read positive stuff to nourish your brain and keep it alive, sharp and growing.

Evaluate and Make the Necessary Changes In Your Environment. This is all about filling your environment with positive people, places, and things.

Take Good Care of Yourself. Exercise and eat healthy foods.  Maintain a low-fat, low-salt and low-sugar diet.  Moderation is the key, so if salt or sugar is listed in the first three ingredients of the food you buy, then there’s probably too much of it.

Write Down Your Thoughts In A Journal As Often As Possible. This will provide you with the ongoing insight into who/where you were, who/where you are, and who/where you will be, helping you to organize your thoughts which will automatically help you deal with your problems more effectively.


  • HAPPINESS is a byproduct of good living, not something you go out and get.  After all, happiness is what life is all about, ultimately.
  • SUCCESS is relative.  When things don’t go your way, regroup, count your blessings and loosen up your criteria for success.  Also, remember to rejoice in the success of others.
  • PERFECTION: We are all perfect; it is our behavior that usually falls short.
  • GROWTH/CHANGE: Life is all about living, loving and learning, and so growing.  This mean s that mistake are necessary.  Also, don’t worry about changing others.  They’ll change as you change your thoughts about them.

Never let the memories of yesterday rule today’s thinking or you will kill tomorrow’s dreams.  Walter L. Hilliard III

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