10 Things You Can Do To Improve Your Relationship.

What is it that sometimes comes and goes like the wind, and other times, no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to hold onto it long enough, or you can’t get out of it fast enough?

Well, if you said relationships, you’re correct.  And your prize is in the mail.

Not long ago, while working as a marriage education facilitator, I discovered that couples – married and unmarried – can greatly improve their relationships by frequently practicing a couple of basic tips.

But these tips are only beneficial if you’re really serious about improving your relationship.

Remember that when you work on changing yourself, others may decide to change, too.

1. Listen, Listen, Listen! I know it’s hard, but when you’re arguing with your mate, don’t focus on what you’ll simply say next.  Just listen.  By zipping your lips, you’ll “flip the script.”
2. Compromise. Love is give and take.  What difference is there between you and a child if you have to have your way all of the time?
3. No Name-Calling. Never!  Never!  Never!
4. Write a Note. Write and leave your mate a note explaining how you feel about a devisive issue.  This is also a good technique to use if you and your mate cannot seem to stop arguing.
5. Set Aside Discussion Time. Set aside some time each week when you and your mate can discuss relationship problems.
6. Try a Mirroring Technique. Repeat back to your mate, everything he or she says, in your own words. You want to let your mate know that you’re listening.  This will provide the platform for a “safe” discussion about your relationship issues.
7. Do Things Together. You and your mate must spend time together, participating in activities that you both love.
8. Get a Life. Besides having things that you do with your mate, you must also have time to do things apart from your mate.  Whether it’s visiting friends or just playing basketball with your buddies once a week, you have to spend some time apart.  This renews your energy and increases your appreciation for your partner when you come back together.
9. Look Into the Mirror. When you and your mate have an argument or a problem, ask yourself:  “What role do I play in this problem situation?”  Stop pointing the finger at your mate all the time.
10. Improve Your “Self.” Always strive to improve yourself mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally.  Take time out to enjoy your hobbies.  If you spend more time on improving yourself, you’ll spend less time worrying about your mate’s shortcomings.